Saturday, February 28, 2009
Baby steps towards abundance
Friday, February 27, 2009
The New Zealand itinerary starts to take shape
I've been researching New Zealand. And I've learned that there are 10 sheep for every person in New Zealand, so that's 70 million sheep roughly. Also, New Zealanders love the outdoors and adventure, I believe bungee jumping originated from the South Island and there is a relatively new fad I've heard about today called Zorbing that also originated from New Zealand (www.zorb.com). I just had a discussion with a coworker who's done it, apparently you can put soap and water inside along with yourself. Useful if you've ever wanted to know precisely how your laundry feels when you stick it in the washing machine.
For me, I'll be doing more trekking. Perhaps a camino New Zealand style? New Zealand prides itself on it's natural heritage, it has 15 National Parks that cover roughly 10% of the country. The government has organized 9 'Great Walks' to cater to tourism mostly. You can read about them here: New Zealand Great Walks Mervin and I will do at least two of them. If we can swing it we'll also do a 'Great Walk' on the North Island that is actually a four day kayak.
Of the two confirmed, this is one:
and this is the other:
Thursday, February 26, 2009
K is robbed... again
Just 10 minutes after that thought, as I had left the bank and was driving away my friend K called me on the phone sounding very distraught. Coincidentally, she too had just left the bank after withdrawing her savings but someone had just robbed her of the money as she was getting into her car. I was stunned by the synchronicity of the events plus the concurrence of my earlier thought. She tells me she needs $500 right away. I tell her to meet me at my workplace and I lend her the money. When I see her she is a mess, "why do these things happen to me? I am a good person!! I worked so hard for that money and once again I am robbed within 6 months". She was alluding to months back when someone had broken into her home and stolen her laptop and other valuables. I console her, "there is a balance, you will get this back someday, you're so young. One day a few years from now you'll be making so much money that this incident will seem like chump change".
I give her a hug and she breaksdown in sobs, clearly she is under quite a strain. I ask her why on earth she was taking so much money out and she replies that she had just decided to move to Australia and was withdrawing her savings. She has a place in Sydney and she's moving into it. She invites me to stay at her place in Sydney when I am passing through Australia enroute to New Zealand and I accept since my flight overnights in Sydney. I'll likely stay a few more days in Sydney actually.
We are Mirrors
I had lunch with A one day after practice, things were going amicably until I mentioned that I knew coach T whereupon the conversation shifted to lambasting T's reputation for a long duration. I was bemused to see just how deeply A's dislike of T ran, they had known each other for 20 years and clearly there was a long ongoing rift between them. What I found astounding was that the litany of complaints A had against T were precisely the same ones as I had heard from T (indirectly through L) about A, plus a few more grievances. It was not a pleasant experience. I also recognized that a couple of extra grievances A held against T about on court behaviour were directly observed by me about A himself. It dawned on me that these two coaches were mirroring each other to a significant degree. If I were to point that out to either one of them, I'm quite certain they would be offended to hear about the comparison to the other.
Sages believe that what we cannot see clearly in ourselves is what we most often see in others. We dislike and judge the aspects in others that we dislike and judge the most in ourselves. What we see is what we project, therefore everyone we see and meet is a mirror for us to learn about ourselves. I recently read this and until that conversation I had not seen the truth of it so keenly.
Friday, February 20, 2009
My hiatus
Thursday, February 19, 2009
New Zealand it is...
This is incredible. Today I booked my ticket to Christchurch, New Zealand and yesterday I had no idea I would do so. It came to me over lunch...
- My Malaysian friend Mervin called me up two days ago while I was at work and mentioned that he was taking a trip to New Zealand soon. I have not heard from Mervin in many months, we agreed to meet for lunch today. I met Mervin in Spain last May through a mutual friend from Italy, coincidentally Mervin and I also have a mutual friend in New Zealand and he's on his way to stay at her place during his visit. This in itself is an amazing pair of coincidences.
- At lunch he tells me that he is booked to arrive at Christchurch on April 1st, he just got a great airfare. Only US$600 for the roundtrip, that is 50% off. The deal ends on this day. And the travel date is perfect since I am scheduled to take a professional certification exam at the end of March in Singapore, thereafter I have no commitments.
- By the end of lunch I am convinced it is the right step to take, though I have no work permit nor occupation awaiting me, but I have this knowing that it is a good move. Plus didn't I just make a declaration recently that I would find the perfect job in New Zealand?
- After lunch I tell a coworker that I am moving to New Zealand, she says that she has good I.T. recruitment contacts there to share with me.
Letter to a child
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
A Small Review
I sense the perfect job for me is in New Zealand. So I declare that the perfect job for me awaits in New Zealand and I shall find it shortly after March.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Of the Four Agreements
It happened not too long ago that I was sitting with my friend J at the cafe downstairs from my apartment. We were having breakfast and discussing Toltec wisdom. There was a book I had read a few months ago called The Four Agreements. She asked me for the list of the Four Agreements again, I had given it to her verbally a few days ago. This time I wrote it down for her. One of the items of the list read "Don't Take Things Personally", it seemed a rather commonly held notion. But yet very, very few practice it regularly. 5 minutes later J's boss showed up with some people and they sat down at the table within earshot of ours. They started speaking in Chinese, and I noticed J's expression turn dark. "She's not supposed to be doing that, she tells us not to do that and she's doing it herself. I don't like being lied to." She explained that it is against company policy to provide work services independently. I reminded her of the list I had given her and pointed out the item about taking things personally. “How often do we speak truthfully to each other? Very little of what we express is actually what is real, a lot of it is just automated response to a given situation, or an exaggeration of a fact. Especially if it is a personal statement about ourselves, the majority of us would prefer not to reveal anything intimate about ourselves, we rather cover it up. We can’t even be honest with our OWN selves, how do you expect us to be truthful with each other?” She mulled over this briefly then slowly nodded in agreement.
I Dream of Tennis
I am playing tennis at an indoor exhibition event against the Spaniard Rafael Nadal and I am hitting winners against him. The crowd is amazed at the unranked underdog giving the number one player in the world a hard time. But alas, Nadal's superior shot making ability and greater experience allows him to prevail and snatch the first set from me. Then for reasons unknown to me, I leave the venue to go buy new tennis balls. On the way back I get lost and I frustratedly try to return but keep ending up at the wrong place, eventually I make it back but now I have forfeited the match. Nadal offers a few words of consolation to me briefly and I can tell that I have earned his respect. I think to myself, " I can't believe I just played against Nadal, wait till I tell my buddy Greg about this!!"
More on tennis...
For Valentine's I received a gift from my friend S, it was one of the best surprises I've had in a long time. It is the same shirt that Roger Federer wore to the recent Australian Open, ok well not precisely the same shirt but the same model. I admire Roger Federer a great deal, he is undoubtedly a mentor to me. The next day I show up on the tennis court wearing THE SHIRT. I play amazing tennis with the shirt. I can actually FEEL like RF, I move on the court like he does and hit some amazing shots. I actually wonder if the guys are noticing that I am so much like RF right now.
Later that day I show up at the Nike Store in MidValley. "Show me everything you have that RF wears". The salesgirl directs me to the tennis section and the rack is full of different shorts and shirts, at the end I recognize the same shirt I own. She points to it, I am a little annoyed to learn from her that this is all they have in their selection. "What about these shorts? She pulls out a hideous blue pair, "Rafael Nadal wears these". I barely control a neutral tone replying curtly "no, thanks. I'm only interested in RF's stuff." I learn that the entire rack except for the one shirt on the end is Rafa's items. "Maybe you have his shoes? I ask hopefully. No. Boxers? No. Anything with his initials on it? Not even. Last year it was different, this year... all because The Rajah lost the Australian Open and Wimbledon to Rafal Nadal and is no longer #1.
Doing a Not-Doing
Monday, February 16, 2009
Putting things in perspective
Sunday, February 15, 2009
A Sudden Meeting
3 days ago as I sat in the passenger seat of a car with my friend J at the wheel, I had my senses jarred in mid-conversation by a sudden collision followed by another jolting impact that shoved J’s vehicle into the one ahead. Acting on impulse knowing neither J nor I had suffered significant injury, I dazedly opened the door and fumbled with my phone's camera function to capture the scene. Somehow instead of being lodged in the rear of our car, the taxi responsible was beside ours where it had collided with yet another vehicle. I snapped a picture then checked on the driver of the taxi that had hit us. He was groaning in pain and holding his head which had hit the steering wheel, but it didn't look serious.
I guessed from the sequence of events that the driver had mistaken the accelerator for the brake, he hit our car once and then hit it a second time after it had rebounded back due to the sustained accelerative force. The second impact had propelled our vehicle into the SUV ahead which in turn hit the taxi in front of it. Finally, the taxi responsible had somehow careened off our rear and hit the car to the right of us.
As we were sorting out the events with the traffic wardens that had arrived, the culprit left the scene; but I had his license plate number plainly evident in the photograph. My neck was sore and starting to stiffen, already the traffic was backing up on Maarof Road. I discerned that there were 5 cars involved, the SUV we had hit was driven by a middle aged lady named C and she had collided with a man named R.
R and C started arguing as onlookers gathered, though it was plainly obvious neither one was at fault. Fascinating that they would scream and shout at each other anyways. Just then, my phone signaled a text message had arrived. The message stated that my friend V had just given birth to a baby girl named Isabelle. Mother and baby were doing well. The time was listed as 118pm, a sudden chill descended over me because it was approximately when the crash had occurred. My senses were flipped just as the baby made her entrance to our world.
The police showed up 15 minutes later and I described the events then showed them the picture of the car that had hit and run. In my wishful mind images briefly flashed of the policemen scrambling to their vehicles in response and shouting an APB on their radio announcing the license plate of the taxi, but instead the officer remained rooted in his spot with a sympathetic look and a commiserating, "yeah, that's too bad...".
J’s car was not drivable and a tow truck was called in for it. The trip to the police station took two hours to conclude filling a report. Between bouts of waiting, we were directed from desk to desk between two buildings, interviewed by 3 different officers and finally stood in line at a window to drop off the filled out report slip. During this time, R and I chatted occasionally. I learned that he had been in 3 major collisions in his life, two of them the car was totaled. In one the car had turned over and skidded a hundred meters, he had to kick out the window to escape from the wreck and in the other the car had wrapped itself around a lamppost. Yet for all the incidences, the worse injury he had suffered was a broken collarbone. He was chagrined that he would lose a day's worth of business. Fortunately for him, the taxi company would handle all repairs swiftly at no cost.
After things were settled, we asked R if he could give us a ride back to my place and he obliged. During the ride R mentioned that his sister was getting married that evening. When we arrived at my apartment in MidValley I asked R what we owed him for the ride and he said, “what ever you want to give”. J stopped my hand as I held out a $10 note, she handed him a $50 note and a $5 note. “This 50 is for your sister for her wedding”, R was clearly taken aback by this unexpected generosity. If there was any lingering resentment stemming from the accident that day, then J had selflessly erased it even though her own car had suffered the worst damage by far on the front and back. When we left the taxi, we both were feeling actually quite good about her deed.
I learned today that J would likely have to lose her insurance discount though she was not at fault because most of the taxi drivers don't have insurance and even if the procedure were to go through an insurance claim it would take many weeks for the car to be repaired. In review of the hastle and frustrations suffered, I have now upped my gratitude and appreciation for the lifestyle I had in North America. I recall an incident when I had awoken one morning to find my car had the appearance of being vandalized during the night. I drove to work and phoned in the incident to the police department. Within 15 minutes, the officer had arrived at my workplace and met me to inspect the vehicle and take my statement. He then gave me a slip of paper telling me this was the police report. Now that is police service... instead of serving the police.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Giving away our personal power
Once Upon the Sea of Blissful Awareness
One moment I was dancing on a rooftop overlooking the Aegean sea with the warmth of the setting sun on my face as I stepped in easy rhythm with an exquisite woman, the Flamenco band playing and the smell of the sea carried to me on the gentle wind. The next moment I am immersed in the jostle of a packed stadium rattling and humming as the adored Irish rock band cry out that they still haven't found what they're looking for. Quickly the urge to be elsewhere abates.